A quick internet search reveals how many people feel about excessive kindness. Kind people make less money. Kind people are more likely to be depressed. Being kind can be “lazy, inefficient, irresponsible and even harmful.” The world is a mean place, after all. And, if you’re too kind, you’re bound to suffer the consequences.
In the end, here is my conclusion: I don’t think it’s a “kindness” problem. After all, love is kind. I think what people are talking about is a boundary issue. I know for sure that I need better boundaries, and I’m excited to know that with great boundaries I can learn to be truly friendly, generous and considerate.
If you are wondering whether or not you have healthy boundaries, try taking this quiz: http://www.boundariesbooks.com/boundaries-quiz/. Also, if you have no idea what I’m talking about…”what are boundaries???”, then watch this video: